Supporting Children in Grief: Early Childhood

How to support children 0 to 5 years of age who are grieving.

We hear a lot from folks about how they don’t know what to say or do for kids and teens when someone has died. Many folks are also unsure if a child is grieving “right.” Check out the tips below that can help you gain a better understanding of what grief looks like for children 0 to 5 years of age, what you can say to them to help, and how their grief looks different than an adult’s.

Common Grief Reactions

  • Child will respond to family’s reactions
  • Before your child can talk, their grief may be expressed in the body
  • Changes will happen as the child gains more language
  • Questions and behaviors may be repeated

Appropriate ways to speak with your child

  • Label emotions as your child gains more language (i.e. I feel sad, I’m glad)
  • Think of your little one’s behavior as communication
  • Be honest, and use child-friendly language
  • Younger children may believe that loss is somehow their fault; let them know it is not
  • It’s okay if you don’t always have the answer


  • Plan activities you and your child can do together
  • Read books about loss that match child’s age
  • Describe a range of feelings with words and actions
  • Expressing a range of emotions is healthy for you and your child

Things to Remember

  • Children’s grief is based on one’s culture, religion, and race
  • Maintain a level of curiosity with your child’s experience in grief
  • There are no set stages; grief doesn’t happen in any special order
  • Grief and grieving changes over time
  • Reach out to a professional if you or your child needs support
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